I finally finished reading The Happiness Project. There was one more thing that struck me about the book that I wanted to post about – Gretchen Rubin’s “True Rules.” These are the rules you live by, things you repeat to yourself while going about your day or making life decisions. They could be significant or small. A mantra, or a simple reminder. They may have come from your parents, your siblings, your friends, a teacher, a book. It’s a neat exercise to think about the “true rules” you’ve created for yourself. And it’s actually not all that simple to bring them to the forefront of your mind. Here are some of mine:
- If you commit to go through when the light turns yellow, don’t turn back.
- Don’t go grocery shopping hungry.
- You never know what kind of pain someone else is in (so be nice).
- Drink more water.
- Don’t leave food below waist height (most other beagle owners probably use this one, too).
- One thing in, one thing out.
- You’re the only person who will never leave you.
- You become what you think about.
I asked a few friends for some of theirs, and I got a few great ones:
- Don’t send drunk texts.
- Don’t punch as many people as really do deserve it.
- When shoe shopping, you must put both shoes on and do at minimum a lap around the store, then be complete honest with yourself and only buy them if they don’t cripple you, no matter how cute. (This friend then said, “I’m bad at following my rule though since my closet is full of shoes that kill my feet.”)
Sometimes it can be a good idea to think about the rules you’ve set for yourself and evaluate whether they’re still “good.” The rules sometimes just creep in there whether we’ve thought about if they’re good for us or not. I remember some old food rules I managed to banish from my rulebook, for example.
What are your True Rules? Have you added any lately? Have you deleted any?